Let me start by saying that the p*ssy bill is at an all time low. Sorry for the vulgarity of that statement, but that is it’s truest and most simple form. Women are handing it over for gym shoes and V.I.P. club access. They are putting on their clown suits at an alarming rate – making it look like the mass majority of women accept sub par dating methods. Making it look like it’s perfectly cool to proposition a women for sex after a few days. Not at all am I saying a guy needs to spend his life savings to purchase a chastity belt key…but I guess I’m just looking for time, effort, something.
Men don’t settle down because of the right woman. They settle down because they are finally ready for it. Whatever woman they’re dating when they get ready is the one they settle down with, not necessarily the best one or the prettiest, just the one who happened to be on hand when the time got to be right. Unromantic, but still true.
Insecurity VS. Intuition
People sometimes cannot distinguish between insecurities and intuition.
Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving oneself to be unloved, inadequate or worthless (whether in a rational or an irrational manner).
A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value and capability, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by “going wrong” in the future.
Intuition is the apparent ability to acquire knowledge without inference or the use of reason. Intuition provides us with beliefs that we cannot necessarily justify.
“Intuition is a combination of historical (empirical) data, deep and heightened observation and an ability to cut through the thickness of surface reality. Intuition is like a slow motion machine that captures data instantaneously and hits you like a ton of bricks. Intuition is a knowing, a sensing that is beyond the conscious understanding — a gut feeling. Intuition is not pseudo-science.” -Abella Arthur
Enough technical stuff.
Truthfully I wrote this post because I feel like I’ve let people tell me that I am just insecure about certain things, particularly in relationships. I just don’t believe that. I am not an insecure person. I am very comfortable with myself, and I am very aware of what I have to offer someone. I come from a good family, I just graduated college, I have no enemies (I don’t think LOL), I am a very honest/loyal person/friend, I have my own worldly possessions, I am a child of God, etc.. Basically, although there is room for improvement and growth, I don’t really think that there is anything wrong with me, to a point where I need to be insecure in a relationship.
That’s where I feel like I have trouble distinguishing insecurities from intuition.
Example. I was dating a guy, and sadly things got a little strange as time progressed. I started noticing certain “things” and “behaviors” that made me a little uncomfortable with him. Of course, he assured me that I was just “being insecure”, that I had nothing to worry about, and I need to learn TRUST (LOL now that’s a word people throw around). So I did what any normal person who is interested in continuing a relationship would do, let it go. He says this, so I believe him, mainly because I WANT to.
That’s the problem. My intuition told me he wasn’t right, and what I saw didn’t correspond to what he was telling me. BUT he made me feel like I was just being insecure.
So,what happens when everything blows up in your face though? That’s what happened to me. In the long run, I wasn’t being “insecure”, I had a feeling about something, and it came true.
I say all that to say this, if you know you are a good person (inside and out), and you keep having these crazy feelings, noticing unusual things, or even something is brought to your immediate attention, be careful to know the difference between someone telling you that you’re insecure, and your intuition talking to you.
…but for really bad situations, I attribute epiphany’s that happen out of nowhere to Divine Intervention, because God doesn’t like to see his children hurt or suffering.