Monthly Archives: July 2009

Yo MAMA beech!

LOL Kidding :-) Just a little attention grabber!

A while back I did a post entitled “He’s Just Not that into You“, that basically gave a short list of ways to tell if a guy isn’t trying to date you. That list was specifically for women, but now I’m seeing there is a NEED for a list that men can refer to…LOL

DISCLAIMER : I had absolutely NO ONE in mind while writing this post. I simply had a discussion with a few family members who read my blog, and thought I was sexist in my “deeper discussions”.

Here goes…

SHE’S. JUST. NOT. THAT. INTO. YOU. IF

1.) She has a boyfriend, or anything remotely close to a boyfriend.

2.) She doesn’t call you, text you, facebook you, or (now-a-days) twitter you. Trust me, if a girl likes you, you are ALWAYS on her mind, and she WILL find a way to communicate with you.

3.) She would rather text you than talk to you on the phone. (Example: You call her, she doesn’t answer, but then she texts you back)shes_just_not_that_into_you

4.) She won’t update her facebook, in fear YOU will know she has been online

5.) She uses the word “friend” frequently when referring to you

6.) The goodbye HUG includes a PAT ON THE BACK

7.) If you have EVER heard her belch, pass gas, or any other un-lady like behaviors. (maybe after a while, but ABSOLUTELY not in the beginning)

8.) She wont go anywhere with you alone, or avoids making dates with you

9.) She is always about to start her period, or talks to you (in detail) about starting her period

10.) When you’re around, she checks her cell phone the entire time

11.) Her friends know NOTHING about you. Girls are the MOST talkative creatures on the PLANET. If her friends don’t know more than your name…yeah

12.) If you see her out in about, and she gives you the initial “generic” conversation, followed with a “Nice seeing you, talk to you later (wave)” ….

13.) When she looks directly at you, she makes a “face”

14.) She is ALWAYS super busy, irritated or tired when you talk to her

WARNING: Understand that MOST WOMEN are not extremely straightforward, and some indicators listed are subject to personal interpretation.

OK Ladies this is all I could think of, what do YOU do when you’re not that interested in a guy?

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Wuh Da EFF?!

SORRY…this may be wrong, but seriously WUH DA EFF happened to you?!

Free?

free

Bootz?

bootz

Fab Chica’s

Because CLEARLY I’m obsessed with Toya and Tiny….LOL

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Sasha FIERCE!

Check out a new ad for Beyonce’s “Sasha Fierce for Dereon line” …

FAB HUNNY!

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Insecurity VS. Intuition

People sometimes cannot distinguish between insecurities and intuition.

Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving oneself to be unloved, inadequate or worthless (whether in a rational or an irrational manner).

A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value and capability, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by “going wrong” in the future.

Intuition is the apparent ability to acquire knowledge without inference or the use of reason. Intuition provides us with beliefs that we cannot necessarily justify.

Intuition is a combination of historical (empirical) data, deep and heightened observation and an ability to cut through the thickness of surface reality. Intuition is like a slow motion machine that captures data instantaneously and hits you like a ton of bricks. Intuition is a knowing, a sensing that is beyond the conscious understanding — a gut feeling. Intuition is not pseudo-science.” -Abella Arthur

Enough technical stuff.

Truthfully I wrote this post because I feel like I’ve let people tell me that I am just insecure about certain things, particularly in relationships. I just don’t believe that. I am not an insecure person. I am very comfortable with myself, and I am very aware of what I have to offer someone. I come from a good family, I just graduated college, I have no enemies (I don’t think LOL), I am a very honest/loyal person/friend, I have my own worldly possessions, I am a child of God, etc.. Basically, although there is room for improvement and growth, I don’t really think that there is anything wrong with me, to a point where I need to be insecure in a relationship.

That’s where I feel like I have trouble distinguishing insecurities from intuition.

Example. I was dating a guy, and sadly things got a little strange as time progressed. I started noticing certain “things” and “behaviors” that made me a little uncomfortable with him. Of course, he assured me that I was just “being insecure”, that I had nothing to worry about, and I need to learn TRUST (LOL now that’s a word people throw around). So I did what any normal person who is interested in continuing a relationship would do, let it go. He says this, so I believe him, mainly because I WANT to.

That’s the problem. My intuition told me he wasn’t right, and what I saw didn’t correspond to what he was telling me. BUT he made me feel like I was just being insecure.

So,what happens when everything blows up in your face though? That’s what happened to me. In the long run, I wasn’t being “insecure”, I had a feeling about something, and it came true.

I say all that to say this, if you know you are a good person (inside and out), and you keep having these crazy feelings, noticing unusual things, or even something is brought to your immediate attention, be careful to know the difference between someone telling you that you’re insecure, and your intuition talking to you.

…but for really bad situations, I attribute epiphany’s that happen out of nowhere to Divine Intervention, because God doesn’t like to see his children hurt or suffering.

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Random Glam

Amber Rose is Glam. The end.

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Throwback!

Here is a throwback picture of Lil Wayne and Ex-wife Toya…

A lot seems to have changed over the years…Weezy went from clothes that were clearly too big, to clothes that are clearly too small. Toya on the other hand looks like she lost a little weight, and got even more fabulous :-)

weezywedding

Slow it down…

Drake is the MAN.

Check out this newness. Drake feat Crucial “Slow it Down” (Heartbreak Drake vol.2)

…dreamy

Everything, Everyday, Everywhere!

Check out Loso (in case you ain’t know so) new video and song featuring Miss Keri BABY, and Ryan Leslie!

Everything, Everyday, Everywhere!!!

yup…LOVE this new track

Throw Back Joint of the Week!

Hey…I’m in that kinda mood, ya know?

ABSOLUTELY love Robin Thicke…especially “Wanna Love You Girl” feat. Pharrell! Enjoy :-)

…when she’s around, nothin’ else matters…

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