Far too often in the world of dating, we mistake little quirky qualities and pet peeves as things we can simply overlook. Perhaps we have, in the backs of our minds, the notion that dating these days is so non-traditional that our dating criteria can also be non-traditional.
This is NOT the case. Communication is key to both progress and success, so talking about these things now will only help better your relationship in the long run. What about those things that we don’t see? We like to call these “red flags,” and apparently chicks are pretty good at ignoring them when we don’t want to admit to the reality of things: the guy we’re dating is a complete psychopath and it’s time to give him the boot.
To save you all the trouble (and potential heartache), I present to you red flags we tend to ignore most…
1.) Cell Phone Jitters. Never once have you ever even thought about looking through his phone, and even though he goes out of his way to hide his screen and secretly text when you’re not looking, you still have no desire to know what’s in that phone of his. Just know, you probably won’t like what he’s hiding. Take precaution.
2.) Dating Dilemma: If you’ve never been out on a “date” then you’re not actually dating. Instead, you have one of those middle school relationships where dating is considered holding hands behind the park bench at recess time and pecking each other on the cheek as all your creepy little friends stand around and watch.
3.) Facebook Fraud: Ah, the social network drama. Somehow it’s become a commonplace argument among young couples, 2.0. I personally don’t like having the whole cyber world in my business so relationship statuses are unimportant to me, but if your beau actually takes the time out to untag himself in every picture of the two of you, I think now would be a good time to get suspicious.
4.) He’s Just Not Ready: If you and your boyfriend just recently decided to be “exclusive” but he’s still rather inclusive in his weekend activities, perhaps you need to lay down some rules about what it actually means to be in a relationship. On the other hand, it could be that this guy just isn’t the relationship “type” and is totally fine with just hooking up and fooling around. Perhaps you should look elsewhere for something more serious.
5.) Opposite Sex: There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a best friend of the opposite sex. Hell, some of my closest friends are guys. But if your boyfriend’s “best friend” is a girl whose boob he grabs every time they take a picture or whose hand he holds “jokingly” whenever they’re in public, I’m sorry to break this to you but, that’s not his best friend. That’s actually his real life girlfriend and you’re just some other girl he hangs with every now and again. Don’t let this be you!