So this is completely random, but then again, those who know me, know I am completely random most of the time. Anyway, after a pretty long and extensive conversation with a guy friend of mine, I have to pose this question: Is having the title “Boyfriend or Girlfriend” important. AND if it is, why?
My thoughts on this topic where that titles are sometimes needed to give people a sense of commitment. I also felt like those titles serve as necessary boundaries, in place to show the progression toward something bigger (I’m personally too old to just date for “fun”).
NOW…after talking to my guy friend, I may have a different point of view.
According to him, titles put a strain on relational values, they compromise a persons freedom of choice and effects a persons overall judgment in negative ways. Titles are for people who harbor insecurities and need guidelines for their actions. He also suggests that people will always do what they want to do, regardless of what relational title they may have. Titles were used in high school. The older you get, the less they matter. An engagement, however, is a title that means something.
“Actions speak louder than words. If you cant tell by his actions, then what’s in a word” –HIM
I kinda feel him. Looking from that perspective, titles are more childish. Think about it, when you fill out a form it says: Married / Single / Divorced …nowhere does it say boyfriend or girlfriend.
Welp guys, I know I didn’t really digg deep into this topic, but that’s because I’m on the fence. On one hand I feel if you really want to be in a relationship with someone, then a title may help to make it clear to the world. On the other hand, if you have that title but you still do whatever the hell you want to do (extra curricular activities), then does it even matter. I slightly felt like my guy friend used his position as a cop-out on commitment. But then again, like he said, why do u need a title if he is doing everything he should be. So damn.